Two things I learned ( I almost always learn the hard way btw) about going dim or dark.

1. Going dim or dark made me think about what I was doing all the time, thus I was always thinking I'm not going to text her. So I was making it so much harder on me. GAL and/or keeping busy is your friend here.

2. It can be a easy to turn going dark/dim into a punishment on your spouse for some, so be careful. Meaning for me at least, when I said no or didn't respond to my W early on, it was at times that I should have or at least responded something very brief. I turned her asking about a question about a D into a punishment. I would wait to respond or do it with digs, in my mind I was being dim, but in reality I was being an a55.

M46,W41
D16,D18
M22,T25
BD 11/12
W moved out 01/13
Piecing 10/13
Divorced 01/15
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
UrWorthy