Wow, Pud. First, your post was great and I can see so many similarities between your sitch and mine, as far as our H's mindset, etc. and because we both still have them at home.
Also, you got some GREAT advice from the others on here! Really good stuff that I needed to hear today! Stuff I need to read over and over.
[quote=Pudmuddle]We feel so disconnected and have been withdrawn from each other, almost db'ing in a bad way, for so long, I just don't know anymore. quote]
I totally identify with this. It feels like my H and I have both been withdrawn (although not physically) for so long now that I'm not sure the "real" DBing is working. We had already come to a place where we were doing our own thing and ignoring each other, my H especially....so now that I'm trying to do those things, H sees it as confirmation that we should be done.
Although, my backslide today didn't help, I'm sure.
