I found out that since she left, she is not entitled to reenter the home without my express permission here in NC. I'm thinking about letting her know that to hopefully shock her out of whatever bubble she is in & get her to do something. However that just seems to always backfire & send the 'wrong;' message whatever that is.
I agree that it's likely to backfire. If you need to do it for YOU, to help you move on or detach, that's one thing. But if you're trying to shock her out of it, it's doubtful it will help and it's likely it will hurt your sitch (will cause anger and resentment).
I wanted to comment on that piece as well. Don't you think that is more of the same? What would be the 180 here?
