Separated 2 1/2 months; just trying to stay strong

[Pudmuddle]

pw, I am in the same way as you as far as my H hasn't been nasty or had harsh words...yet.

Also, my S16 is going to a counselor because he told me the other day that he had been smoking pot since he was a freshmen (now a junior) to "ease the pain". From what he tells me, mostly high school drama but also my dad's death a year ago and now what H and I are going through. My S is not feeling good about telling H because H has been hard on his nephew who smokes A LOT of pot and he has had harsh words about him. I told my S I wouldn't say anything until S felt ready. But I do think his father must know soon as to what is going on with his S. Maybe after the C session, he will feel better about talking to his father. I'm not purposely withholding it, just trying to respect my S's tender feelings at the moment. My H had asked what was wrong last week and I told him I was trying to respect son and H was ok with me not telling him. It may wake him up or it may not, I can only hope it will. But I am not counting on that at the moment.

I think mother's know when their kids are worse off, so good for you for not allowing the hospital submission. You will know if it gets that bad. Best of luck to you and your son.