He's dillusional. There is no judge that will sign off on that. Stand your ground!
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Got paperwork from the social worker. All over the letter she refers to helping H and I resolve conflicts regarding custody and placement of the kids. So they are not going to make a decision, they are going to help us mediate. We have been down this path before. Once with a GAL and once with a mediator. I believe this is case study is not going to resolve anything either. I think H is going to push this to trial.
This court business is a racquet. How much money are you willing to spend? The court will go to the ends of the earth to make us agree. I don't think it's going to happen.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
My attorney sent correspondence to H about the meltdown D had with H the other night and suggested H may want to reconsider getting D into counseling. Of course, H was defensive and angry and pointed the blame back at me saying I kept her up too late at night and that I didn't do what he had discussed with me on the phone. He never asked me to do anything on the phone except to come and help him out.
I know consider the source, but I am so tired of his lies and his attempts to throw me under the bus. I know it won't stop until I stop letting it affect me. But when I read his email I flew into a rage. I wasn't around anyone but I was raging in my mind and cursing in my car.
I am trying to move on from that moment. H told my attorney he was planning to discuss this with me tonight. I am not going to be home tonight so it won't happen.
I just wish he would go away.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
He will never, ever take responsibility for anything. Anything. He just twists facts. He's a liar. He can't help himself.
Yes, he even said S didn't need counseling. He said the counselor told him that Evan's issues stem from H and I's failure to communicate. She had the same conversation with me and what the counselor was trying to say was "stop passing messages back and forth through Evan". He loves to take what people say and twist it. Hence, that is why I refuse to communicate with him. No matter what I say, or don't say, he twists it out of context. He did that before BD too.
Empathy is gone again. I am angry.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
WH, Yes, your h likes to push your buttons. So, here's what I'm going to suggest and you are not going to like it. In the future, when your D is having a meltdown w/her father...let him deal with it. If he calls you, you do not go there to rescue him. What is he going to do when you are divorced? Call you every time the child challenges him? I don't think so. He needs to learn what it is to be a father and communicate w/his kids.
Stop rescuing him...allow him to wallow in his own stew pot. He wants his days to be w/his kids...then give them to him 100%.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
