Hi RL, yes I'm a humor school graduate... got an 87% on the final with only a little bit of cheating. The other students and the instructor (all women) all seemed to like me for some reason. Maybe Standers are the new sexy?
I didn't sign up for the Navigating Divorce course yet, but may soon. I also attended my second divorce support group meetup tonight. 74 people and I'm almost the only "stander". It was fun and informative listening to stories, asking questions, and receiving feedback on my own sitch.
When I came home late I offered W a pleasant hello. She barely looked up from her iPad as she grunted. No smile, no how are you, not even a sexy strip tease.
I wonder what her reaction would be if she learned I joined a D support group, or signed up for the D course. I'd hate for it to make things worse. Thoughts?
uRw: I made a FB account a couple months back, but I don't know how to work it. Seems like a lotta trouble.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
FY, I wouldn't tell her if you joined a divorce support group or signed for a divorce course...you would be setting the stage for her to seriously think about a divorce. Don't plant seeds if you want a different outcome.
Stay the course and be patient.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
FY, I wouldn't tell her if you joined a divorce support group or signed for a divorce course...you would be setting the stage for her to seriously think about a divorce. Don't plant seeds if you want a different outcome.
Stay the course and be patient.
Agreed, but I worry that she may find out somehow. We live together, get the same billing statements, etc. If she asks point blank questions I can be vague but I'm not going to lie if she presses. Getting caught lying about it would be even worse, I think.
Maybe it's better to just skip the class for now. The meetup group is fun, and I'm making some new friends, but there's some risk there too, I suppose. This is why I asked the question.
W's brother and his W from California are in town. We are meeting up Saturday for dinner with them, her other brother and his fiance, her aunt, and her dad. Basically her entire immediate family. (except SA brother who dropped out of the family when he left home as a teen)
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
FY, Go ahead to the class. If she should ask, you can tell her about the meetup group and how you are making new friends, etc. After all, she goes out w/her friends and leaves you to do your own thing. This might make her a bit curious about you and your whereabouts at some point.
I think you and your w will enjoy visiting w/her family. Dinner sounds like it will be fun. This gives both of you something to look forward to.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
uRw: I made a FB account a couple months back, but I don't know how to work it. Seems like a lotta trouble.
We can't find you, so I'm assuming your name on there isn't ForeverYoung DB. URworthy Db is the easiest person to find. Sometimes it's worth it to go to a lot of trouble.
M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
Not so sure about the online course, though, knowledge is power. But if you are fearful she might find out and you are uncomfortable, hold off on that.
The meetup is a different thing. You should be making friends, FY. Nothing wrong with that.
The other students and the instructor (all women) all seemed to like me for some reason. Maybe Standers are the new sexy? 
Just sayin...LOL~