Is it normal and ok to still have feelings for another person but also love and want to be with your wife??
NORMAL? Yes.
ACCEPTABLE? Hell no.
God made us sexual beings, with all that entails. So sure, biologically it's perfectly "normal" to have feelings of wanderlust. But when one enters into a covenant -- MARRIAGE -- they forsake all others, and remain in fidelity to their spouse.
Just because one is TEMPTED doesn't mean that it's acceptable to ACT on those temptations. Each of us have our own, sometimes different boundaries, but I would (and didn't) not stand by and allow him to have his cake and eat it too.
Did your DB coach give you some simple boundaries that you could work to enforce?
