I think this happens to a lot of us, and most of the time, the good folks here are happy to oblige with a 2x4 or three. You've gotten a handful for sure...but dig into the comments. Read and re-read them.....and really think about what is being said. Challenge yourself to see things from the other side. Challenge yourself to shake off your natural thoughts and tendencies and see things as they are.
Originally Posted By: djhartm
To those saying I'm not working on myself; I am indeed. It is difficult when your wife won't articulate what it is she wants to see changed/different. I know nothing about her current mindset at the moment.
I disagree. I think you have all information you need.
You are looking at this as if you do X, your wife will come back. The only way that formula works is if x = change who you are. It's not a simple action, or something you say.
