I have one more question here. Now H always travels to meet the OW but never let me know his traveling dates in advance. He informed me two or three days before he is gone, and usually he will be gone all the weekend or even longer. And he never let me knew where he was. Should I set some boundries for this issue? Because I think we both need to arrange our time and coopreate to take care of kids and do things for ourself.
Thank you for your inputs.
Any family therapist worth their salt would tell you that it's best for the children to set up permanent, written monthly schedules. There should be SOME flexibility built into them, when WORK travel is necessary for one or more of the spouses, but I certainly would NOT allow your husband to allow last-minute trips to visit his OW to interfere with a regular, structured schedule that is best for your children.
If he wants to have an ongoing role in your children's lives, then he's going to have to let you know his schedule in advance, and then STICK TO IT (absent any emergencies, work travel, etc.).
