FY, I wouldn't tell her if you joined a divorce support group or signed for a divorce course...you would be setting the stage for her to seriously think about a divorce. Don't plant seeds if you want a different outcome.
Stay the course and be patient.
Agreed, but I worry that she may find out somehow. We live together, get the same billing statements, etc. If she asks point blank questions I can be vague but I'm not going to lie if she presses. Getting caught lying about it would be even worse, I think.
Maybe it's better to just skip the class for now. The meetup group is fun, and I'm making some new friends, but there's some risk there too, I suppose. This is why I asked the question.
W's brother and his W from California are in town. We are meeting up Saturday for dinner with them, her other brother and his fiance, her aunt, and her dad. Basically her entire immediate family. (except SA brother who dropped out of the family when he left home as a teen)
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
