"The best thing my H could have done would have been to fill his time with having a really great time enjoying himself without me. To see him oozing with manly confidence in his walk, talk, and daily behavior. To stand up to me and take zero disrespectful statements/murmurings and other bad behavior directed at him. He would not stand around while I b!thced at him or about anything else. In fact, he would not have spent time in the same room with me if I acted like your W does. He would not have acted like my cook/bottle washer/butler. He would not have done anything "for" me. I would have had to take care of my own needs. He would not have sat at home and waited to see what I was going to do during the day/evening. He would have had his own plans and would not have included me or informed me."
I made pancake batter and apple sauce last night, for the girls to fry up, but W heated up store bought pea soup instead. Does this mean it is better that I do not cook at all? Not go food shopping at all? They had the pancakes for breakfast instead. Part of my husbandness has long been carrying my weight in the household by cooking. I don't want to be a jerk, or not be present for my d15, when family dinners together were something we always valued.
So when/if W glares at me again, I say "W, I don't care to be glared at" and walk out? I think a food stash upstairs, my domain now, may be necessary...
Son has agreed, and I don't think I pressured him in any way, to spend a week traveling with me after Christmas. We had a nice time last Christmas, just us two guys, when W and d15 decided not to come along at the last minute. Lunch club start tomorrow, maybe Stockholm Friday evening, hiking Saturday. This will be a great time, but W won't see us having it. Is it important that I just have a good time wherever, or should she also see it?
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
