Thanks `say' for your advice;

I am tending to agree with you on the facebook subject, although it would be a `180' I don't want to stir up more emotion & the temptation to snoop in my down moments would be too much.

I left WAW nearly 3.5 months ago & part of GAL'ing (going out at weekends & trying to be the happy chappy I used to be) has led to me meeting the new girl. I waver between the `long haul' wait which may be fruitless & the opportunity to start again. If I had the slightest signal that WAW was re-considering I wouldnt be considering a new relationship but that does not seem to be forthcoming despite contact from her 2 or 3 times a week.

Although my rollercoaster has levelled out a lot in the last few weeks (I never thought that would happen) I still think of WAW almost all of the time, but, there have been 3 things that have helped me get through all this, GAL'ing, reading this forum & the realisation that so many have successfully got through this & finally the communication with new girl which has made me see that I might not be left on the shelf if WAW never changes her mind.

Thanks again for your comments


Me 50
W 46
Stepson 16
Together 6yr, Married 3yr
Known each other 20yr
ILYBNILWY Jul 13
Found out about affair Jul 13
Left Marital home Jul 13