My two cents worth DigDeeper: Wife, I do not wish to sell the house or to remarry, or to file for separation or divorce. I wish to work on my new marriage, not the old marriage we had. I cannot control your actions.

Something along those lines. But leave it for awhile until some better worded vets come along.

ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.