I found that very strange that they will not allow you to enroll as "self". I don't know who you work for but that is a bunch of BS. Open enrollment is just that open enrollment for anyone who wants to change their plans, drop their plans, or enroll.
I've never heard of such a thing. Couples can have their own respective plans and do not require have one plan. Are you trying to get insurance for yourself or yourself and your children? I would think your h would be responsible for the kids' insurance.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
No, there is no open enrollment for my company's healthcare. They worked out a better deal with the insurance company like 3-4 years ago that enrollment was closed to workers unless they have a qualifying event like a birth, marriage or divorce. So unless my company totally changes insurance companies or policies I cannot get on the policy until the divorce is final.
Like I said, I am not worried about it now, but it's something to discuss with my attorney tomorrow. H might be required to keep me on the policy until the divorce is final.
And in other drama news, my SIL is raging in the cage about H bringing OW to the soccer game. They have been in a texting war all afternoon. And she has been texting me. She is so angry with him. She keeps telling him how out of line he is and he won't relent, of course.
It's like she wants him to admit he's wrong which he will never do. He told her it was all my fault.
What a kook.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Try to stay out of the conversation with your SIL and H. You'll be glad you did at a later date. He has told you it wasn't you, but when pressed, it'll get ugly. He needs a fall gal
For the insurance - you may want to double check with hr. Most companies also have a qualifying event like separation and also have an open enrollment period. That is likely coming up in the next few months. Until then, you're right, he is likely required to keep you on the insurance. The L will know how that works as well.
Kook is right.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
No I checked with HR. The divorce has to be final before I can enroll. Or if there is an end date like before the end of the year, but tis not the way it is.
Like I said I'll worry about it when I have to.
In other news, SIL called me and told me H will probably be raging tonight since things did not end well with them. She also told me that OW has a mouth on her and is snippy with H and is always telling him what to do. I asked S if she was mean to him and D and he said no. I said if she is let me know.
I find it hard to believe H would let himself be verbally teased and put down by OW. I thought she was so much better than me?!?!
I just don't get it.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
wh, Please be careful w/what you discuss w/your sil. Usually blood is thicker than water and when a sibling or friend tells you things about what your h is or isn't doing, as well as the ow's activities, they generally carry the mail right back. They don't mean to do it, but there is an old saying that I firmly believe in and it is "a dog that brings a bone will carry one". Just be careful what you discuss w/her. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Like Snodderly has told me time and time again, sit back and still and little by little more and more will be revealed.
I can see now that H's and OW's relationship is not all he makes it out to be. Not that it matters, but it helps me see the bigger picture and also shows me how damaged H really is to be so enamored with this woman. And now I see her issues as well. Match made in heaven? I should say not.
It doesn't make a difference in what I do or don't do with my life, but it helps me detach even more. H's life certainly is not a bed of roses, nor will it ever be. Drama will continue to follow him and karma is starting to do her job. Now I sit back with my popcorn and watch. I think I already know how this is going to end.
Thank you, everyone, on this board for encouraging me. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and I am starting to see the forest for the trees. I think it will be even easier to drop the rope more now.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
I'm glad you are finally at a place where you can see the forest for the trees. You wouldn't have been able to do that if you hadn't dropped the rope a bit. Sit quietly and calmly, the answers will surely fall into your lap. They always do.
Take care of yourself and your little ones.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Just a word of advice. Now you know more of the story. There will be more unless you actively try to not hear it. Belive me, there will be more. And while at least now you can see more of the bigger picture (perspective is important), the trip is far from over. There will be days - even if farther apart and much less impactful. Don't let that trip you up.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I swear we built this house on an ancient burial ground.
For the last two days we have had no direct tv service. I thought it was because H didn't pay the bill. So I get home tonight and find H is home and the TV is working. Hmmmmm.... So D and I watch a Halloween movie and I put her to bed. I put S to bed later and sit down to watch some TV. All of a sudden, the satellite is not working again. We also have a light in the hallway that will switch off all by itself and flip back on again. We have also had quite a few trees come down in the past year. Like I said earlier I think karma is starting to do her thing. I just hope she doesn't take me with her.
Met with the attorney. I think he is gonna try to throw down some signals to H to try to get him to settle. I am not holding my breath. I am gonna see where the cards fall and go from there. Our de novo request was rejected as I had stated earlier, so my attorney is filing a motion to reconsider and see where it goes from there. I am not too worried about that.
I do want to be done with this and move on. But H wants me to leave the house with no settlement and no support order and wants me to pay half the household bills even if I am out of the house. Plus he wants a year to refi. No deal. You want the house you refi in 90 days and you take all the household bills and agree to support or I am not moving. I can't. We will see what happens.
Aye yi yi
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
