I think, job, you've hit the nail on the head. When H's parents lost the house he HATED having to move to his sister's house. She was so far from his friends and life. He actually lived out of his friend's car sleeping on couches rather than go home. He felt like he had no control. Our marriage has very much been a parent/child relationship, due to both our personalities, and he did say that I always told him what to do and with the responsibilities of family he, once again, felt like he had no control. He's desperate to get control over his life but has no understanding of how and is destroying everything in his path. Life abilities that he should have learned he just never did. He still isn't learning independence. S18 mentioned, with a fair amount of disgust, how his sister and his mom made sure his plate was full, they packed him dinners to td me home, my mil kep reminding him to take his antibiotics. I did coddle H a fair amount but this was a bone of contention for us whenever we got together with his family. I don't serve hand and foot (just hand lol) and he's happy to be the baby boy again I guess.

We'll see what happens when my lawyer sends in my papers and what I'm after. I'm also changing my name back, I don't think he'll be surprised as I've always wanted to keep my maiden name but it wasn't worth the fight early on, so my legal documents will be coming in with my maiden name on them. I'm grateful that I fought to have the boys last names hi fen acted because they'll still have both our last names. I should say that when S18 was born H was not in the pic right away so I gave him my last name. When we got married S18 was 2.5 and I didn't feel like he should only be H's name as my parents had supported me in their home up until the day we married. My mil hated me for it and h eventually got used to it. Hindsight makes me super happy I did.

Thank you again, to everyone, for your support and prayers. You all "get it" and we speak the same MLC language. It's comforting to have such great people on my side

M 16 T 20
M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15
Bomb drop April 4;
Moved out April 13
D started-full force
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Dancing through the fire
Cause I am a champion and
you’re gonna hear me ROAR