Me 11 months on.

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I just felt like bringing this into your own thread:

Somehow, I feel this is what is happening with my W. She probably expected I would move on by now, expected me to be angry and say nasty things behind her back, to buy the house off her or sell it, and to start divorce proceedings. Since I haven't done any of these, she only has the last option, to ignore me.

You could be right but the case is that she just can’t keep on doing that! She can do it for now, but not for ever! The two of you are hooked up in a house and more important your sons – you will have to interact!

I think this long period of NC that you have had will serve you good when you finally do meet up and talk. The impact on her of the changes you made will be much stronger. I don’t know where the two of us will end up but one thing is totally certain and that is that it will be a new life and our Ws will be a part of them.
The insights gained and the mountains climbed will make us stronger and better and perhaps Ws will see that one day.

Also this one:

I am so jealous of the amount of GAL stuff you can manage to do, either with your kids or by yourself. It's fantastic and can only help heal you quicker and better.

First: Thanks for the kind words! 25mlc hammered me some months ago about this and I have been working hard on this.
I know your worries about moving but when you get to the city promise me to do this work!!! It feels totally awkward at first because you suddenly takes all these initiatives but my experience is that when people see it is consistent they suddenly start to invite and take initiatives. I have gone from almost nothing to turning down invitations, my friends call me before setting a date and ask if I will be able to make it and so on – it feels great and it is all about focus and initiative.
Due to this I believe that city will be so good for you!

Make yourself a nice set of goals on this one!

Great news about the coach! I think C will be amazed when they talk to you now and I think it will do you good to actually talk to a human being for an hour without minding words, tone and all of that

F