I don't think ssmguy's the husband of the gay wife.
Yes, this touches on the theme which seems so contradictory in these discussions. On the one hand, the assumption is often that a woman will always want to have sex with her husband if only he works on himself and is a good husband. Or, it must be that her sexuality is directed elsewhere. Maybe she's gay, or is having an affair. That is, the underlying assumption is that any and all women are seething cauldrons of pent up sexuality, just waiting for the right competent sexual partner to come along.
On the other hand, the sexual literature reports endlessly about the loss of libido with age, especially for women after childbirth and menopause. It seems the MAIN PROBLEM is simply lack of libido, period.
And so if you combine these two facts, what you get is men with high libido who spend years trying to get their wives interested in sex, with ZERO results. I bet there are millions of guys like me.
We learned on these websites there are also millions of women just like you - who have a need and it continues to go unmet by their spouse. That it seriously and traumatically impacts and hurts them to be denied and essentially rejected.
