You seem to be handling things well.
Your sitch kind of reminds me of the book "this is not the story you think it is, a season of unlikely happiness" by Laura Munson....you may want to check that out if you have the time.

Continue to focus on you and the kids. Keep up a positive attitude. All the best to you!

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope