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I agree NQ I think he's just trying to push my buttons, I don't think he's serious about joint custody at all!
I think it's an empty threat and I don't think he'll take it any further. He's just trying to bully me at the mo.
I know that my son needs a male influence in his life, but I do feel that H's flat is too small. My son needs routine because of his autism and I don't think that H is able to provide this. My H works for himself and as a result gets work when he can. My son will probably be left in the flat for most of the day on his own, just playing video games. His routine will be completely gone out of the window and my son won't be able to cope with this.
I know he is doing this for extra money Advina because he told me. He's struggling financially, he's bled his mum dry and is now trying dirty tactics to get some money out of me. He may treat his son ok, but wants joint custody for all the wrong reasons! I don't know how it will work with my benefits, but if H doesn't get any extra benefits then he'll struggle to look after my son. If he was really that bothered abut joint custody, he could spend more time with my son. He's got plenty of opportunities to spend time with him as we're over his town nearly every day because of college. I asked H if my son can come over to his for dinner on Weds because I'm at college until 8pm. He said no he cannot! Is that someone who seriously wants joint custody when he won't even have my son over for dinner once a week!
You're so right about why I let him talk to me like that when I was supposed to be having a nice day with my mum. I lack confidence when I talk to H and didn't even think about saying anything like that. I will next time, if I can be bothered to answer the phone to him that is! lol.