Wife moved out, won't come back home

[newton0]

Interesting that you all say 'unwanted' PDA is off-putting (of course it is), but since I took the initiative, she has responded in kind.

We've been out on several dates & had wonderful times holding hands, each other & making out, but she won't come home. She says we'll talk, but we never do, and I have given up asking her because it only seems to push her away. She will not tell me what she wants or doesn't want. Some days she's down & reaching out to me, other days she doesn't contact me at all.

I had a party last weekend and asked if she could help out. She willingly obliged, and helped make the party a smashing success. I went out of my way to tell her that & show her my appreciation & we made-out, but she would not stay the night. Then I don't hear from her for days. She also cried because I took down her pictures - yet she is the one that won't come home?!?!

I found out that since she left, she is not entitled to reenter the home without my express permission here in NC. I'm thinking about letting her know that to hopefully shock her out of whatever bubble she is in & get her to do something. However that just seems to always backfire & send the 'wrong;' message whatever that is.

6 weeks no & we still have not had any meaningful talk about the future despite going on many dates where she shows me affection without being asked.

I'm trying to detach & leave her alone but it is a very frustrating space to be in. On one hand, I want to get on with my life, and on the other, I'm stuck in limbo.

I'm seeing our therapist tomorrow for the first time in several weeks (she was on vacation), so we'll see what she has to say about all of this.

To those saying I'm not working on myself; I am indeed. It is difficult when your wife won't articulate what it is she wants to see changed/different. I know nothing about her current mindset at the moment.

I think I'll just leave her alone...