Hello Everyone! Always awesome to have your support.
Time is a flying!
Oh Queen Kitty is fine. Honestly, like every other cat owner, I am pretty sure that she thinks she owns me. Actually, I am sure mine owns me, the spoiled fuzz-nut.
Job - you will always be Snodderly to me! - I was wondering if someone would recognize that website from my description. It is truly too bad that the conclusion is "my way or the high-way" and the rather judgmental tone ruins her otherwise positive messages of self-worth - that regardless of what WE have done in a relationship, there is a grown up, respectable and honest way to exit one and that our partner's less than stellar choices have nothing to do with who we are. Unfortunately, if a person does not handle said situation how she wants you to, the blow-back is incredible.
I remember how big I was in blaming myself for losing him - I was/was not [fill in the blank] and I deserved what I got. It did not help that outside friends and family basically said the same thing - well, you weren't married... But I have learned that if he wanted out - he should have grown a pair and talked to me. Even if I was a raving shrew, I did not deserve his treatment of me. It took a long time for me to get there.
Know what else? I am OK. I have learned that I still do prefer the "untraditional" life - the travelling, the making my own rules. The thought of being behind a white picket fence is not for me. That I still do not want children. That I am independent and I hope someday to meet someone who likes that about me.
I would hold out for FY, but it seems he is taken
Am loving the new-to-me car smell and the freedom of having a vehicle!
Apparently, xSO can smell it from far away. It is almost funny that he has fallen into a pattern whenever there is a long weekend or holiday that he texts me. This weekend was no different. Quite a few texts were exchanged on the nature of the cars - his "new one" and mine. I made him guess by sending pics of different parts of the car He said he would have to do some research when he got home but he was at work.
I confess, when he gives me those details, it always reminds me of when he was trying to cover something up with the GF. I think that should be put on the checklist for cheating - over-explanation. Even if what he said was true, that is what it reminded me of.
He sent me a picture of his. I will admit that I couldn't help trying to see the interior to see if there was a baby or child's seat. Couldn't see a thing, tinted windows. No mention of GF either.
Unless this escalates, I won't ask. But I will not allow this to go beyond casual texts if he is still with her, so I will have to ask if he does not volunteer. There will be no contact if he is still with her. Not after all that has happened. I will find myself invited to their wedding or some stupid thing. Nope.
So, he'll have to think of something else now that he has all the car information.
Dad's surgery was cancelled until this Friday. He's a wreck. I am trying to DB him (Just Validate!) But what I really want is for the docs to knock him out cold until they are finished. Affectionately, of course! xSO has no idea - other than the car details, he knows nothing about my life. Can't expect support from that quarter, in any event.
NLT, I am taking my lessons from you - just going with the flow for now.
