Sheesh, I said I wasn't gonna post for awhile, but here I am! smile Can't keep away from the awesome folks on here!

Current status: W still is not wanting divorce, but still doesn't know what to do. I told her last time that I didn't know either, that I wasn't sure there was anything I could say or do that I hadn't already said and done.

I took the advice of those on here and actually pushed BACK. She had texted a few times about some stuff, almost like she was asking ME on what to do, and I said, "It sounds like this is agonizing for you, and I'm sorry for that. I wish I could tell you the correct path. Since divorce is filed, that's what I'll assume is happening unless you are willing to change that. Have an awesome day!"

I tried to validate how she was feeling, but also point out that she is the one that has to choose her path, and with the divorce filed, I have to deal with that reality not what's floating around in her head.

My question: would it be too pushy to propose meeting with someone to see if they have recommendations for first steps? I hate to even use the word "counselor", but I'm not sure how to broach that. It seems we're stuck at an impasse, but I don't see anything magically changing even if I go completely dark. Don't get me wrong, I know even the version of "dim" I do works, and I'm continuing that. However, if W is definitely not wanting divorce, but doesn't know what to do, would such a suggestion work?