Rick, yes, I met him at the door wearing nothing but bow-tie pasta!
Yes we have been here together since the start. As I was looking through posts from last year it's amazing to think of all the people who have come and gone in 2 years. And in only a small fraction do we know the outcome.
Yes, I can interpret for you anytime you need!
Thanks for your ongoing support.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Maritimer, thanks. Strength, I'm not so sure about, tho.
Patience, knowing who I wanted to become, a willingness to dig so deep it hurt, developing empathy, letting go of judgment and superiority; those are the things that come to mind. For some reason in my head I see strength as static and this is not a process in which you can stand in place.
My story was a success when I left him on the day of "The Temp Check." I would rather be who I am now with no H, over who I was 2 years ago, with H.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I would rather be who I am now with no H, over who I was 2 years ago, with H.
I feel exactly the same way. I have thanked my W for giving me this gift...the kick in the ass I needed to really dig deep and become who I wanted to be. I don't think many people take the time to really get it, so they aren't able to really become happy. They just drag their crap from relationship to relationship.
But you have to change for you, the change can't be based on the other person. It can't be a strategy. It has to come from deep in the soul.
I told my H something I have said here. He gave me a great gift when he left because it forced me to really look at me and evaluate my life and who I wanted to be. I knew in his walking away I was losing something really important.
I was a very unhappy person and I didn't want to be that, so I changed.
I am sure we were separated at birth
What a journey, eh?
Told my H pretty much word for word what you told yours.
you also know how I live my life now, and much of it is due to watching your journey, and how I wanted to progress.
Yes, it has been a journey. Ruby, I don't have any sisters and always wanted one. I've "adopted" another IRL and you would love her.
I'm on another actual journey. Sitting in an airport heading "home" for a class reunion. I'm amazed at the number of years the invitation said had passed. Crazy. I was in charge of putting together a video presentation of photos from the past and it was so much fun seeing all those fresh young faces and remembering. We lived in a dorm and it was very restrictive, the doors locked at 6pm, males couldn't go above the first floor reception area, there were study hours every night, on Weds we got free hours and could leave the dorm but had to be back by 8 pm.
The weather looks like it will be beautiful fall days, there's a huge art/craft festival going on in the same town. What could be better? I'm excited.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Labug, I think you and I are in the same (good) place. We've learned from our experiences and see the beauty of life (with or without our H's.) Big, big hug to you, and continue learning and growing! (((((((((((())))))))))))))) PS. Have fun at the reunion!
Thanks, Ruby and Tori, we had a great time! We laughed and talked for 4 hours and of course still didn't get all caught up.
There were 4 males in our class and 2 of them came to the reunion. one has Parkinson's which was a jolt cause he was always in the middle of whatever outrageous fun we might cook up.
LIVE NOW!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Ruby, I don't have any sisters and always wanted one. I've "adopted" another IRL and you would love her.