BOMB WAS DROPPED!! Now What??

[doubledown]

Thanks Theoden:

I brought up the fact that this was the second time she has gone outside our marriage during our discussion. She replied that there were feelings, but it wasn't a physical thing. I told her it was an EA, still an affair!

I also told her that if I do find out that she is still seeing OM, she will need to leave.

At this point, because most courts favor the mother, if she wanted the house, she would probably get it. Then I'm screwed.

So, I'm confused at how being strong and telling her what I want and how it's going to go down is going to do anything more than piss her off and completely change her stance of not pursuing my 401(k), IRA and property. At 46 years old and the economy we're in and how the future looks for this country, I'll never be able to make that up.

If she leaves, she leaves. But I want to stay in my house and have shared custody of our kids. After all, she WANTS to leave, not me. So she should go and start her new life. Not take mine.