Mostly, she is citing ten years of emotional and verbal abuse. It's not quite abuse as in ad hominem attacks but angry, controlling, jealous rage and manipulation on my part. I've been a terrible person, but I do love her.
If she says it's verbal abuse, then that is her perception. Own it without being condescending or excusing it.
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Can six months of excellent non-crappy behavior overshadow ten years of perceived awfulness.
NOPE. She will not believe the supposed change for a long while.
Sounds like you have some work ahead of you. What have YOU done to make yourself a spouse that someone would be a fool to leave?
What have you read?
Are you in regular IC ?
What have been the 180's you have done?
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
