Huge R talk this weekend. Initiated by W. Basically started because she snooped on my Facebook and found out I had accepted a friend request from an XGF from High School. I had avoided this girl for 6 months on FB. Just reconnecting with lots of old friends male and female.
Anyway, my W has had moments of lucidity during this crazy MLC process. There have been moments where she is very introspective trying to figure out why she feels the way she does. She has said "I dont know why I'm doing what I'm doing" more times than I can count. She also has blamed her father's lack of approval and her mother's leaving her at age 13. She has freely admitted that she just doesn't want the responsibility of anything anymore. Her actions and words read like a blueprint of the MLC. She has even admitted that she thinks she probably is having MLC and wants to know what I have found out about it. (Dangerous territory I know) She has also said that she thinks I am having one myself. As I attempt to GAL and detach, she is trying to see my journey as MLC.
Questions for today: 1) If she is intelligently looking at her self, how much talk about MLC can you have with an MLCer? I know MWD's advice is to never tell someone that they are having an MLC because they are irrational and that will drive them away.
2) Detaching is tough for me as we still share a house and a bed. Distance between us has caused most of our marital problems. How can I detach and GAL without being seen as "more of the same"? I don't want to be available and attentive all the time and invite cake eating.
Thanks for listening.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
