TTD180, sorry to hear about all the H issues. Thank goodness you have gotten onto some local support network. Sometimes it is easier not seeing the other half, as you said to 2old, especially when they act like your H. Other than that, all I can say is hugs. You may also want to think about recording some of your conversations with your H.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
