Working on me

[TryingToDo180]

Thanks everyone for your uplifting comments I feel tons better today You're right NQ, the sitch always seems worse when you're tired. I was tired on Monday and it always seems to be when this girl gets me the most. now I know why! Early night for me on Sundays from now on, lol.
I've been looking into this joint custody thing. I don't really think he's got a leg to stand on. The most important thing that will go towards me is that I've always been his main carer. The other things that go in my favour is that my H doesn't understand my son's needs, the fact that he changes my son's routine at the last minute speaks volumes! My son knows where he is when he's with me, He's got a fairly fixed routine, if he was with his dad then it will be all over the place!
Also the fact that he comes back from his dad's tired can also go in my favour and the biggest one of all...I'm saving the best til last...The time spent with my H has got to equal 20% which is laughable. He's not seen my son for 3 Sundays now!
Also when my H said he wanted to have half the carer's allowance, doesn't he realise that we'll both miss out? If I don't care for my son for so many hours in the week, then I have to give up my carer's allowance. You can't split it into 2!
2old, what have I been telling you all along, you've got it better than me, lol. At least you don't have the hassles of seeing your W, lol.
Anyway from now on in, he won't be having any favours from me, I'm getting a chain fitted on the door asap so he can't just walk in and help himself to toast and coffee and wander round the house to see what he can pick up on.
Thanks for the vote of confidence that I'm doing the right thing by continuing my studies and going to see women's aid Jerseybeachmama welcome to my thread stick around, it's not always doom and gloom on this thread You can join our little gang