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I'm thinking about my situation here in what used to be my home. Never got used to that feeling of not owning it anymore.
My relationship with W is indeed strange. I mean I have the keys to the house. W will leave a space for me to park my car everyday. I still have my cup in the kitchen. Our pictures were still up until recently but I did expect them to be removed at some point. My dinner is still available. It's almost like I'm just not sleeping there but the rest remains the same.
W relationship with OM is even stranger. I feel they are dating but it doesnt look like it. I think W is just maintaining him in the friend zone for now. OM is waiting on her I suppose. I just wish W would tell me what is the status now so I could just move on. W will not tell the guys who's interested that she's already dating me for fear of hurting their feelings in the past. I was hurt I'm not being acknowledged back then. I would think this would be the case if W and OM are really dating. It's even more hurtful because OM was a friend.
I think W is waiting for me to make my next move whatever it is. Its like all involved is playing the patience game. No one will make a move unless the other 'blinks'. The relationship dynamics is really confusing.
Some things need to change. We are stuck in a rut. Right now I act that I don't care if they go out and to a certain extend, OM can bloody well have W. My girls will tell me about their time with OM anyway with W around. Both of us acted as if its just another story to share.
Please share what you guys think? Any idea how should I proceed now?