WBW, There is no good reason to respond or tell him how you feel.
They wake up when they wake up. Some people have assisted rousing them to consciousness by dropping the rope and walking away. That is not my experience. Still some of the best advice for my sanity was “Go live your life for you and your children”
She took a long while to get to speaking to me with the same courtesy she would a stranger after I told her I would not respond unless she did. That was short lived and ceased shortly after she received her portion of the QDRO. My perception is doing so was a means to an end.
There is still drama to come and you will get through it. I defined myself through my relationship and I have come through intact, scarred, scraped and burned, but intact.
When we needed to interact I tried to keep to a list of items or outcomes I wanted to achieve rather than what I wanted to say. b/c I would quickly get lost in the I’ll say this and then if she says that, I’ll say circle. Do what works for you and stay true to your core self.
When you do not need to interact, don’t. Use your L for responses and legal advice. It is what they do and doing so permits some detachment from the process.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
