Hmm. That's a tricky one. Pissing her off will surely evaporate her willingness to work amicably through this.
Good luck then. You still don't get it, DD. I'm not saying to be a DIKK; I'm saying that trying to do the "Mr. Nice Guy" approach has clearly NOT worked, and now that she knows that YOU Knew all along that she was cheating on you, and yet you continued to try to woo her???
I just don't know what else to say to you. Maybe you should go back and read some of the old posts from HopefulStill and Accuray and some others to you, in light of these recent developments, and see if they may have contained some things that might still be able to help you.
I'll leave you with this: there's a reason why they put that little "v" in between the names of the parties in a potential divorce. The process is adversarial, by design. I had to file, and play that game, and it's NOT in my nature -- AT ALL.
I also saved my marriage, by 180'ing the "Mr. Nice Guy" stuff while simultaneously working on my wife's legitimate marital complaints, as well as my own individual issues.
