what are we LBSs supposed to do when our WASs pursue us? All I have heard is "accept some invitations but not others".
I highly recommend reading Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough" for insight into the pursuit/ distance cycle. He does a really good job of explaining this strange dynamic. But basically, if your WAS pursues you your heart tells you to return the favor. But when you do, they go right back to distancing. It's confusing and it hurts. You think you're giving them what they want but they suddenly turtle up on you. But you can turn the tables on them by not pursuing. At some point they may get curious and pursue you, and if they do, then like NTX said, you pull BACK! That can actually make them pursue even more. Basically it's the old "hard to get" approach, if you act like you're not sure you want their pursuit then suddenly they've got a challenge on their hands.
It doesn't always work this way. I quit pursuing my W 10+ months ago and she never has done anything remotely akin to pursuit towards me. Even so, it was the right thing for ME to quit pursuing her, because it helped me to move on.
