H moved out, but he still sees the kids almost every day. H comes over early a few morning to watch the kids so that I can head to work early (like I have always done) and then he takes the kids to school. He sees them every Wednesday and Friday night without me and then usually on Monday for baseball practice and then we sometimes do family stuff on the weekend. We have dinner together as a family as well(never just the two of us).
You haven't been S'd long, I suspect the above is going to change with time. In my case W continued doing "family stuff" with us for a while and having lunches and dinners with us, but that slowly tapered off until she quit completely. Now she does stuff with the kids and I do, but never together.
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Our times together as a family are awesome. We have so much fun together and our conversations are great.
Ours were too, but it didn't change anything for her. I think things like this give LBS's false hope, we tend to underestimate just how "done" the WAS is.
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H makes sure to mention that we are only getting along because the kids are "buffers" which is frustrating. I believe that he says it to continue to justify OW.
I think he says it because he believes it. He thinks the extent of your R now is coparenting. And he will think that for quite some time, probably until OW is out of the picture.
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I have been ok with this set up because it was giving us some time to connect in a good way and it allowed the kids to see H since they have no idea what H moved out.
And that's fine as long as you don't have expectations that it'll fix things anytime soon. It's like the DB coaches say, you're showing him what he'll be missing some day.
