I want to be sure to start my post-bomb drop life on the right foot.
Tonight, when I get home, am I kind and positive or to myself and dark?
Should I keep myself occupied or interact as usual?
FYI: The day after my W dropped the bomb and I went into defense mode, I apologized and acknowledged that all her feelings are understandable. During our conversation, I did take full accountability for all my contributions to our broken marriage. I expressed how sorry I was and how difficult and painful it must have been for her. I did end our conversation by telling W that I realize she has made her decision, that I don't want a divorce, I believe in our marriage, but I won't stand in her way.
She had a migraine, so I said let's get some sleep. She said goodnight and retired to the spare bedroom. I went to our bedroom. This morning, we were both very cordial and friendly.
At this point, no details have been discussed regarding custody, finances, etc. We just shared what we were thinking and that we want the kid's disruption to be minimal.
If we agree to both take a few days at a time every couple weeks and leave the other with the kids in the house, is that a bad thing? Isn't space what I should be providing right now?
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
