NTX - at some point you moved from being distant to piecing. What does a WAS have to do so that we can begin to spend time with them again?

Also I am not suggesting Jon work on the relationship. I am saying the when he is around her he needs to act differently.

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)