Why what? Maybe I can explain some of it if I knew which why you are referring to.
If you are asking why add on the house or remodel, well, it's something to make they feel better about themselves and yes, a distraction. They figure that they've tried other things and they aren't working, so they'll change their living environment a bit. They all do the remodeling of their places at some point in time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
