Look, I understand -- I have been there -- we all turned at one time or another to our cheating spouses to comfort us. But you simply cannot do this -- not if you're going to come out of this with your OWN self-respect intact, and not if you're ever going to get your husband to a place in his "crucible" where he needs to be in order to contemplate his own destructive and selfish decisions.
You can't CONTROL him, but you damned sure don't have to SOOTHE him, nor look to him to soothe YOU. Let him be.
