As for what your h sees in the ow, well...it's something "new" to him. She's the exact opposite of you, so that's "new" to him. She's got health issues, he wants to rescue her. She may boosting his ego and telling him things that she knows he wants to hear. Also, the affair is new and exciting because there are no responsibilities associate w/it just yet. They are both on good behavior right now, but when the divorce goes through and they are together 24/7, those nice little goody masks will begin to crumble after a while and the real people will emerge. Now, that's when the fun will begin to fade.
No, she is not the better person here...but in his mlcing eyes, he thinks she is. Anyone that is having an affair w/someone else is not the better person in my books.
Hang in there.
wh, I have to say I feel the same way about my H's OW. She is not very pretty at all, which surprised me but she is giving my H what he needs right now. Respect, no responsibilities (and rainbows and unicorns! lol), making him feel needed and temporary happiness. She is not the better person because she is assisting in ruining someone else's family and has no concern about that. That is not a good person. Look at it this way, she has a low moral center to feel that it is ok to be with a married man and be ok with it!
I love what job posted up there because it is so true. I am putting that in my things to read journal and will read it over and over when things are tough.
You are doing great at getting out, being with your kids and enjoying those moments that go too quickly.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
