I need some advice about how to handle the situation with my H and the kids. H moved out, but he still sees the kids almost every day. H comes over early a few morning to watch the kids so that I can head to work early (like I have always done) and then he takes the kids to school. He sees them every Wednesday and Friday night without me and then usually on Monday for baseball practice and then we sometimes do family stuff on the weekend. We have dinner together as a family as well(never just the two of us).
Our times together as a family are awesome. We have so much fun together and our conversations are great. We laugh, talk a little about work (not too much since OW is involved with his job), friends, etc. H makes sure to mention that we are only getting along because the kids are "buffers" which is frustrating. I believe that he says it to continue to justify OW.
I have been ok with this set up because it was giving us some time to connect in a good way and it allowed the kids to see H since they have no idea what H moved out.
It is getting harder to have fun times together and then constantly watch him walk out the door to his "new life." I know that he is still involved with the OW. I dont know if the EA has transitioned into an PA, but I am trying to act as if it has.
I am getting concerned that H is just too comfortable with this situation. H hates having to get up early to watch the kids, so I guess that is forcing him to do something different. But it still feels like he is getting the best of both worlds. He is getting to choose his family and the OW. H has no reason to do anything other than continue to live in the two little worlds that he has created. I know for a fact that he does not think I will leave and can always come back if he wants because he has told me several times.
Do I need to make some changes? I don't want to be angry or vindictive. Any advice??
