Even though this convo was all wrong, it is the first time in 6 years we have actually talked about any of this stuff for a period of time.
Well, convo's like that are a good thing in a healthy marriage, all I'm saying is they are too much pressure in a M that's on the rocks. Once BD happens convo's like that should not take place unless and until the WAS commits to the M.
Originally Posted By: Pudmuddle
I'd like you to consider moving out. I feel that I can no longer be around you while you are trying to figure yourself out with another person. It is hard for me as your wife to watch and wonder where you are, if you are ok, and if you are coming home. It has become obvious to me that you do not want to work on our marriage, or consider getting help for yourself to get through this. I cannot stand by and say we have a marriage when you feel you must take up with a mistress/f buddy to be happy. This is not what a marriage is.
I think it's too negative/ accusatory. Do you have Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough"? He has a great example of this type of note in there.
