NTX - I agree with what you are saying for the most part; Jon is all over the place (sorry Jon). One minute he is done, and the next he is telling his w "I love you".

Nonetheless, Jon's w is clearly not done and is dragging Jon along with her on the roller coaster. So my question for you NTX is this: what are we LBSs supposed to do when our WASs pursue us? All I have heard is "accept some invitations but not others". I believe that this is what Jon thinks he is doing. Only it seems that Jon gets an invitation twice a day.

When we move beyond he initial period when our WAS is totally done to the sort of gray area, I don't really get the the going dark thing. I thought that DBing was more about doing what works than going dark. I personally think that Jon needs to work on changing the way he interacts with W rather than avoiding her.

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)