hi abbey, I was just reading your posts.our sits are similar. can't stand the lies.
The "Little Bo-Peep" approach to infidelity only enables and delays the inevitable. "Leave(ing) them alone," only to destroy their family and the family's finances, does a disservice to BOTH the betrayed spouse AND the cheater.
Abbey, I'm sorry for your pain, but you can do far better than this man. Rest, heal . . . and then do your work to figure out how to deal with this if you are ever faced with it again.
