I've been DBing, GALing and giving H and I very much needed space.
I must say that H's reactions have been quite positive and we have been having some great days and moments and, as far as I'm concerned, things are turning a positive curve. I stopped pursuing and talking about R and OW in any way, shape or form, unless it's with a MC, and even then I am trying the 4Cs.
I will get in more details once I manage to post anything in this board. Somehow I have been blocked.