Okay, I just had a very good session with T, who identified 180s, in particular touching my W, as the key to a possible improvement in our R. She said these touches should be short, unexpected, and fleeting (as in passing by W, on the way out of a room, I stroke her shoulder or cheek, not giving her time to block the emotional intrusion).
She also further said that my W, who has been described as a "wild beauty" has a different love language than my patient, rational person has been speaking, and that feeling is what she craves, and what I need to give. It sure does feel good and right to touch and be touched -
Wow - I am nervous about touching my W - but exactly that indicates it is out of my comfort zone and so what I should do.
She didn't have time to give more examples of 180s, unfortunately, but this feels like the biggest one.
I am playing with the thought of going to EE for my remaining vacation days. It'd be nice to spend my vacation with people.
Now to find the daring and strength to touch my W.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
