JonF, I want to share 25yearsmlc's Rules for Newcomers with you.
Read note 41. It pretty much applies to your situation right now, IMHO.

BTW, 25yearsmlc's Rules for Newcomers is an extended version of Sandi2's 37 Rules with some commentaries.

M35 XW34
D5 D4
M 6years T 10years
Bomb 5/2013
Joint Petition signed 6/2013
Moved out end of 8/2013
Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013
D finalized in 3 months - no news yet