uR, What a conversation! You spoke from the heart and I just have this feeling that young boy is going to be around to experience and enjoy life. Don't be surprised if he calls again and wants to speak w/you. You have earned your wings and halo over and over again.
Keep up the good work.
BTW, how is your son doing?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you so much, J. I hope he is going to be ok. I was so nervous. I didnt want to screw it up. I kept praying and talking - hoping I was helping in some small way. It broke my heart to hear him in such despair. I pray that he finds his way.
Thank you for asking about my son. I know you were always concerned about him.
I wish I could say that he's doing well. He is going to be taking more tests in the next few weeks. They are confused by the previous results. He is in pain from our disease and he has cystic acne.
He is still kind of lost and trying so hard to find his footing and to find his way.
But through it all he is still amazing. He never complains.He is so kind and thoughtful.
I pray that things turn around for him and that the results are not serious. I just want him to feel good. It's so hard to watch your child suffer.
Wow UR, I read that with tears rolling down my cheeks. I hope you realize just how special you are to so many people who don't know you but are so touched with your words and how you make everyone feel so special. It is truly a gift.
Your son is so lucky to have someone as special as you to call mom. I hope and pray that he turns the corner soon and starts to feel better.
The reason he never complains and is kind and thoughtful is because he has you as his role model.
Sometimes I don't know if our spouses realize that they are role models for our kids. I was reminded of that when my 21 year old daughter told someone that her Dad was not being a good role model for his kids.
Your son is very lucky to have a strong, kind role model so of course he is the way he is.
Good luck with his next round of tests.
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Hey C, thank you so much for your kind words and good wishes for my son. I care so much about everyone on here. And I always remember how people helped me when I first came here. I wouldnt have made it without them.
It is really me who is lucky to have him as my son. He has taught me so much. He's my hero.
I know it must have been so hard to hear that your daughter said that.
There isnt anything you can do to make him see that his children are watching. He runs the risk of losing her respect forever.
uR, I'm really sorry to hear that your son is getting ready to have more tests. I'm sure he gets tired of tests and the pain. There are some really good home remedies out on the net for cystic acne. You may want to do a search and have your son try some of them.
Your son will find his footing and he is amazing right now. He's really an inspiration to everyone and don't think people aren't aware of what he's going through. Maybe he should write a book about his life and life experiences. You'd be surprised at how many people would read it. Writing about one's life experiences, especially when there are major health issues, are very popular with people today. Why? Because people want to learn about health issues and how people are dealing w/it.
Just some of my thoughts today. Tell your son he is simply amazing!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Job, thank you so much. Your thoughtfulness and caring throughout the years regarding my son has meant so much. We have tried just about everything for his acne. Been to many doctors, tried many meds and holistic approaches - none have helped yet.
He was on an antibiotic for a long time that helped some, but, it wreaked havoc on his stomach. And there are things we cant take, with our disease.
We just keep trying, hoping one day we will hit the right thing. It is so painful for him physically and mentally. He has scaring and tells me he looks like a montster. And people can be so cruel.
I told him that someone I know and respect, wanted me to tell him he was amazing.
I said, she knows of your struggles and how you handle them and wanted me to tell you that.
He said, she is very kind, your friend. I am just me, doing the best i can.
"I'm just doing me". That's all we have in the end and those little words are what makes people love you, just being yourself!
He is going to get thru this with dignity because he is a part of you, the best part, he is your heart walking and talking outside of your body!
I met Linda's son and he was awesome, I could see his love for her, and having 3 of my own, I know just how much yours means to you, they're like nobody else!
Great story about the hotline, my goodness we are so fragile and so many are so alone in this world of people, you do know what you've done for that boy, you know!
Thanks Ur, forward and onward! Best dm
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
I like to tell about MLC years down the road in the hope it helps in some way.
I can see my xh slowly peeking in and out. Interesting to watch from afar sometimes.
We had spent half a day together a couple of weeks back. It was strange. Hadnt done that in a great while.
I was me. Ur. Only way I know how to be.
He had his BMW. And I kept saying, whenever I felt like it, Oh xh, your BMW. We had to go run to the store for our son to pick up some supplies on something he was building. And I said, do you want to take the BMW?
So after awhile, he looks at me and says,"Ur, how many times are you going to say BMW?" I said, "Oh, as many times as I feel like it, why? He said, "That's what I thought. Just checking." and we both laughed.
It is what it is, right? He still doesnt really get it - all that he's done.
But I can see he is realizing all that he's lost. It is sad, really.
We got along pretty well. As I said, I was me. He likes me. Always has.
And my son was thrilled we were both there supporting him. I saw him look at us wistfully a few times.
He hasnt changed, from what I can see. Hasnt done any of the work. Still all caught up in what he has, what he's bought. That is sad to me, too.
He was always like that and I was always so not. But it has intensified in his MLC. He still hasnt figured out that isnt the way to happiness. But, that's still his journey.
We rode home together and that was nice. Until he said some things I didnt care for. I told him then and there. He apolgized.
He asked if I wanted to see his tattoo. The one that says, "Forgive the wrong that I've done and help me leave behind a reason to be missed." I told him it looked nice. Was he happy with it? He said yes. He said he got it for our son. I told him that was a really nice thing. And then he looked at me and said, and it was for other things too. I didnt answer. He didnt say anything more.
So, I still see a vacant look in his eyes. I see sadness.
He is still searching for happiness. He continues to hurt me and our son financially. I am thinking that is not helping him in his search. But maybe that's just me.
I can see he still gets a kick out of me. At one point, I said, "So, is it weird for you to be here with me like this?" He said, "I thought it would be, but, you've make it easy just like I knew you would, UR."
I said, I am just me, xh. Always was, always will be.
To which he replied, under his breath. Yes, you will be, Ur. Thank God for that.
And so it goes. If I had to guess, I would say he is going to pull way back. Either way, I am good.
