A Fresh, New Day - Pt II

[Pudmuddle]

I think I am going to ask him to move out. Not negating anyone else's pain here, but this 2nd time around hurts more than the first time and I feel like I can't fix myself while he is still in the same house. I feel like he is just having the life he wants with all of his comforts here and getting his emotional happiness elsewhere and I think he needs to experience his journey full force. Because I can no longer try to fix him. He needs to grow on his own.

I'd like you to consider moving out. I feel that I can no longer be around you while you are trying to figure yourself out with another person. It is hard for me as your wife to watch and wonder where you are, if you are ok, and if you are coming home. It has become obvious to me that you do not want to work on our marriage, or consider getting help for yourself to get through this. I cannot stand by and say we have a marriage when you feel you must take up with a mistress/f buddy to be happy. This is not what a marriage is.

And Yes, I fully understand the consequences of this action. If he takes it to the next level, then he must do that. I can no longer keep doing it the way it has been going.