Deciding What to Do.....

[planet]

This is what 25yearsmlc wrote on my thread.

The "secret" is to become the best person you can become, which means you will be happier in the long run, no matter what your w does. Truly believing that you are going to be fine, regardless, gives a confidence that many find attractive.

It's a paradox in a way.

I just think you must KNOW that you will be alright, regardless of your wife's choices.

When I truly believed that, when i KNEW i was going to be happy again, regardless, and began making plans for my new life, an inner peace came to me.

I began looking forward to my new life (& freedom), and then....somehow it radiated from within. I mean it began to show on the outside..

Believe YOU are going to be OK.
I hold on to these few words dearly. It helped me to drop my guilt over my actions or inaction over the course of my M. I felt happier now compared to the first 4 months.

You are not alone. I have trouble sleeping too. I get up around 4am-5am each day regardless of the time i go to bed. I'm working on this. I hope you do too.