WR

Dropping in just to say hello.

It is strange when something happens in their lives and they do not choose to tell us. Mine decided to buy an new to him vehicle and move apartments. He eventually told me but I have no idea how long after the fact. It was at that point that my detachment began in earnest.

I have been following your financial woes and I am very sorry. I cannot imagine how much more stress that puts on an already stressful situation. I worked in a family law office for a wonderful woman lawyer she said that although she would get everything that you were entitled to, her best advice was to try to become self-sufficient as all too often the other spouse would find ways not to meet those obligations. Obviously those things take time but it is very good advice.

Leave your H to spin and take care of you. Your S18 is an adult now, he can handle the relationship with his father as he sees fit. He will talk to you when he is ready.