2old, we certainly do seem to have very similar journeys, including the moving. Wow.
Sorry, I think about "what the *&%? happened" often as well. Even speaking to my brother this afternoon. It will probably be a question that will stay with us for many years, even after we have gotten over the marriage.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.